As of this day I am no longer Jediknigga. I still like the name but I have decided to go by my mic name which is “the G perspective” of course since most of you didn’t refer to me as Jedi anyway, G is still an acceptable alternative.
“G perspective cause God’s, good, gifts is what I’m here to announce
and my name starts with G but it’s kind of hard to pronounce.”
Okay, after this I think I will have finished with my BP enema and we can get back to composing some new, original posts. I find this a fitting post with so many bloggers (not)practicing “celibacy/abstinence” as a way of maintaining control over their emotions.
MY FRIEND KIBWE ASKED ME TO EXPLAIN MY THEORIES ON SEX LAST NIGHT TO TWO OF OUR FRIENDS SHANIEKA AND JAMYLAH. BUT I COULDN`T REALLY REMEMBER IT SO I HAVE TO ARTICULATE IT HERE FIRST. NOW OF COURSE WE KNOW THE MAIN PURPOSE OF INTERCOURSE IS REPRODUCTION. BUT FOR THOSE WHO SEE REPRODUCTION AS A LONG TERM GOAL OR EVEN DETRIMENTAL WE STILL HAVE SEX FOR THE OTHER REASON. THE TERM SEX AS IT IS USED HERE IS BROAD. I AM NOT LIMITING SEX TO INTERCOURSE BECAUSE THE SAME GRATIFICATION CAN BE ACHIEVED AT DIFFERENT LEVELS THROUGH OTHER SEXUAL ACTS EVEN AS MINOR AS KISSING. WHAT IT COMES DOWN TO IS THAT SEX IS ALL ABOUT EMPOWERMENT. THERE ARE A COUPLE OF VARYING DEGREES, BUT THE GOAL OF SEX IS NOT PHYSICAL PLEASURE. WITH WOMEN THE EMPOWERMENT THEY’RE USUALLY TRYING TO GAIN IS OVER THEIR EMOTIONS, AND WITH MEN IT`S USUALLY ABOUT GAINING EMPOWERMENT OVER WOMEN AND THEIR MANHOOD. JUST LIKE WITH WOMEN WHO SAY THAT THEY`RE DRESSING UP FOR THEMSELVES SO THAT THEY CAN FEEL LIKE THEY LOOK GOOD MEN HAVE SEX WITH WOMEN TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES.
WITH A MAN, WHEN HE ACCEPTS THAT SOCIETY (OR AT LEAST HIS PEERS)IS MEASURING HIS VALUE IN LARGE PART BY HOW GOOD HE IS AT GETTING WITH WOMEN AND HOW MANY WOMEN HE HAS BEEN WITH THEN IN ORDER FOR HIM TO FEEL ADEQUATE AS A MAN AND HAVE CONTROL OVER HIS SEXUALITY HE HAS TO PROVE TO HIMSELF THAT HE IS CAPABLE. AND NOTHING BACKS UP BELIEF LIKE STATISTICS. EVEN WHEN THE MAN IS SO PROLIFIC THAT HE LOSES TRACK OF THE ACTUAL NUMBERS IT`S STILL IMPORTANT THAT HE EXPERIENCES EXPONENTIAL PRODUCTION SO THAT HE KNOWS HE`S “STILL GOT IT.” WITH WOMEN SEX IS ABOUT EMOTION, EVEN MOST OF THE WOMEN WHOSE CLAIM IS THEY`RE JUST “TRYING TO GET THEIRS.” ALMOST ALL WOMEN ARE DRIVEN BY EMOTION, AND MOST OF THOSE WOMEN GAIN EMOTIONAL SATISFACTION THROUGH THEIR DEALINGS WITH MEN. WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN, CONCERNING MEN, THEY NEED EITHER OF TWO THINGS OR SOMETIMES BOTH. AFFECTION AND/OR ATTENTION. AND FOR MOST PEOPLE THE ULTIMATE GRATIFICATION IS SEXUALY DRIVEN.
WHEN A WOMAN GIVES HERSELF TO A MAN SEXUALY SHE IS EITHER SUBMITING HER EMOTIONS TO A MAN`S WILL IN RETURN FOR HIS AFFECTION OR ATTENTION OR BOTH WHICH IN AN ODD WAY IS HER WAY OF EMPOWERING BECAUSE IT TAKES CONTROL TO SUBMIT. YOU CAN`T GIVE A MAN YOUR HEART IF IT`S NOT YOURS TO GIVE. OR SHE IS TRYING TO GAIN EMPOWERMENT OVER MEN WITH THEIR OWN TOOL OF EMPOWERMENT. BUT THE PHYSICAL STIMULATION IS STRICTLY SUPPLEMENTAL. FROM WHAT I UNDERSTAND (BUT NOT FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCES 🙂 MANY SEXUAL EXPERIENCES FOR WOMEN DO NOT RESULT IN ORGASM. FOR MEN, SINCE SEXUAL STIMULATION IS EASIER, BEING NON-FUNCTIONAL AFTER ORGASM AND SINCE MEN ARE USUALLY THE LEAD IN THE HETEROSEXUAL, SEXUAL EXPERIENCE THEIR ORGASM IS USUALLY THE END OF A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER. BUT THE ENDS DOES NOT OUTWEIGH THE MEANS.
JUST BECAUSE CLOSURE ARRIVES WITH THE ORGASM DOES NOT MAKE IT THE GOAL. SOME WOMEN AREN`T CAPABLE OF HAVING ORGASMS, FOR OTHERS IT`S HARD TO COME BY, AND SOME CAN IF THE CIRCUMSTANCES AND ATMOSPHERE ARE CONDUCIVE, BUT THEY ALL CONTINUE TO HAVE NON-REPRODUCTIVE, INTENDED SEX WHETHER THERE IS PROMISE OF ORGASM AWAITING OR NOT. THE EMOTIONAL GRATIFICATION FROM THE ATTENTION/AFFECTION THEY GET FROM A MAN WEIGHS HEAVIEST. OF COURSE THE COMBINATION OF A MAN WHO STIMULATES BOTH THE EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL NEEDS OF A PARTICUALR WOMAN IS WHERE WOMEN FIND THEMSELVES SPRUNG BUT THAT`S ANOTHER ENTRY ALTOGETHER. SINCE A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER NEEDS A DISCERNABLE END IT USUALLY COMES WITH THE MALE ORGASM. AND NECESSAIRILY, SINCE IT IS EXEPECTED THAT THAT IS THE END THEN IT ALSO SEEMS LIKE THE GOAL. BUT IF MALE ORGASM WERE JUST AS HARD OR HARDER TO COME BY MEN WOULD STILL HAVE SEX. SEX IS THE MOST INTIMATE ACT WE HAVE CONTROL OVER AND THUS HAS THE MOST VALUE.
ANYONE WHO RENTS SWORDFISH CAN SEE WHAT HALLE BERRY`S BREASTS LOOK LIKE, BUT ONLY A HANDFUL OF MEN (I`M ASSUMING) CAN KNOW WHAT IT`S LIKE TO BE WITH HALLE IN THE MOST INTIMATE WAY. AND FOR THOSE MEN THEY PROBABLY CAN`T REMEMBER THE ORGASM THAT RESULTED FROM THEIR TIME WITH HALLE BUT THEY CAN REMEMBER THE LOOK ON HER FACE THAT OTHER MEN HAVE NEVER SEEN. SO ANY MAN WHO WOULD HAVE SEX WITH HALLE BERRY, IF GIVEN THE CONDITION THEY COULD ONLY DO SO IF THEY STOPPED BEFORE THEY REACHED ORGASM WOULD ACCEPT THAT AND BE SATISFIED BY THE EMPOWERMENT THEY WOULD ACHIEVE BY BEING WITH HER. WHETHER OR NOT QUALITY OR QUANTITY IS WHAT EMPOWERS THEM DEPENDS ON THE GUY.
Besides that men are ego driven. And nothing feeds a male ego like a woman’s submission. In one of my earlier posts “The answer to all women’s questions” I wrote
What it always comes down to for men is control. And I don’t necessairily mean control as in he can tell you what to do. I’m talking about your submission. That’s what men thrive off of. Most often it isn’t really sex that a man wants when he’s pursuing a woman (although that is a great supplementary benefit, and that’s what he thinks he wants). Most men seek sex from women because most women express their submission through sex. Which is not to say that everytime a woman has sex she is submitting cause nothing could be further from the truth. But when a woman does submit to a man it is often through a sexual expression.
Now you can see how this conflict of interests can (and does) effect male/female relationships. Genders doing the same act but gaining empowerment from opposing intent can often confuse issues, and leave the party with emotions at stake in a serious predicament. Just something to keep in mind next time you’re being grown up.