Before I get started I wanted to tell everyone that I have a crush. And I do mean crush. To me a crush is just an affection towards someone that you don’t pursue. I think I like crushes better because liking girls gets boring after awhile, but crushes are more genuine to me. They transcend aesthetics. Anyway, as I was saying, she’s a basketball player. I wish I could be there to see the face of each and every person who reads this. Since my last blog didn’t upset anyone this will definitely make yall hate me. She’s 16. There I said it. Let the Michael Jackson/R Kelly jokes begin. But anyway she plays for McDonough 35’s girls team. Congratulations to them by the way for beating defending state champ West Monroe this evening. I was in attendance and I was so bucked. She plays gaurd for 35, and I really admire her game and her candor on the court. I started watching the girls team because I was going to games to see my friend’s little brother play and the girls games would always preceede the boys games. I know I have a crush on her cause I always cheer hardest for her. It does help that she’s one of their two best players. Don’t worry yall I would never pursue a 16 year old girl in any way.I’ve done some despicable things in my time but I’m not a pedophile. She’s a cute girl but my crush is more of a “If I was 10 years younger” than a “When I sub at 35 I’m going to make her stay after class” crush. I probably sound like “who are you trying to convince here”, but I don’t care, this is my blog damnit(in Minimee voice). I’m glad I’m me and I don’t feel bad about it. Anyway I’ll let ya’ll know how they do in the state semifinals.
So this post was actually a response that Shontae asked on her Egyptian_laced blog on bp. I can’t even remember what the question was but it was something to the effect of what’s wrong with men?
THIS IS COMPLETELY OFF THE LAST SUBJECT. MY SISTER REALLY CARES ABOUT ME. SHE TOLD ME THAT MY MOM HAD ORDERED FOOD. BUT THEY DIDN`T ORDER ANYTHING THAT I EAT. I WENT TO HER TO TELL HER I NEEDED TO CALL AND ADD SOMETHING TO THE ORDER AND SHE WAS LIKE “I DON`T HAVE ANY MORE MONEY” I CAME BACK IN HERE TO FINISH MY LAST ENTRY AND BEFORE I COULD TYPE ANOTHER SENTENCE MY SISTER CAME IN WITH THE MENU FROM ITALIAN PIE AND 20 DOLLARS THAT SHE HAD SOLICITED FROM MY DAD SO I COULD ADD SOMETHING TO THE ORDER. MAYBE I DID RAISE HER RIGHT AFTER ALL.
TO ADDRESS EGYPTIAN_LACED (AND TO ALL OTHER BYSTANDERS IF YOU NEED THE IMPETUS FOR THIS ENTRY VISIT HER PAGE QUICK). THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION IS THAT MEN ARE SCARED. NOW SOME WOMEN MIGHT GET UPSET AT THIS NEXT THING I`M ABOUT TO SAY BUT IT`S ABSOLUTELY TRUE. WOMEN ARE SOCIALIZED TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO MEN. SO IT IS NATURAL FOR WOMEN TO SUCCOMB TO A MAN`S WHIM. AND IF SHE IS LEFT VULNERABLE AND SUBSEQUENTLY HURT BY HIS SELFISHNESS IT WILL STING. HOWEVER, THE STING A MAN FEELS IS FAR MORE BITING WHEN THE ROLES ARE REVERSED. HUMAN NATURE IS TO BE SELFISH, SO WOMEN AND MEN ARE JUST AS LIKELY TO DO SELFISH THINGS. BUT WHEN A MAN IS VULNERABLE TO A WOMAN AND HE FALLS VICTIM TO DECEIT OR INFIDELITY THE WOUND IS MUCH DEEPER AND THE SCAR LASTS MUCH LONGER BECAUSE MEN AREN`T SUPPOSE TO BE VULNERABLE. MACHO DOESN`T LEAVE ROOM FOR VULNERABILITY. AND IF OUR TRUST IS VIOLATED NO MAN IS EVER THE SAME.
MEN`S BAGGAGE IS NOT AS EASILY NOTICED BUT WEIGHS A LOT HEAVIER. SO THEN OUR NATURAL RESPONSE WHEN WE MEET ANY GOOD WOMAN IS EITHER A. TO TRY TO MAKE HER SUBMISSIVE TO US FIRST BEFORE WE CAN SUBMIT TO HER AND THEN CHEAT ON HER THAT WAY IN CASE WE BECOME TOO VULNERABLE WE DON`T FEEL LIKE WE WERE COMPLETELY GOTTEN OVER ON. OR B. TO DISMISS HER IN WHATEVER FASHION NECESSARY. EITHER BY SAYING SHE`S STUCK UP, NEVER TRYING TO GET WITH HER IN THE FIRST PLACE, OR AIMING FOR SEXUAL GOALS WHEN WE TRY TO GET WITH HER INSTEAD OF RELATIONSHIP GOALS. MEN ARE SCUM AT A 98% RATE. AND FURTHERMORE WE KNOW WE`RE SCUM. IF ANY GOOD WOMAN WILL HAVE US WE CAN`T ACCEPT THAT IT`S THAT EASY BECAUSE WE KNOW HOW LOW WE ARE. SO WE PROTECT OURSELVES BY TRYING NOT TO BECOME TOO EMOTIONALLY INVESTED OR AT LEAST LEAVING OURSELVES AN OUT i.e. “FRIENDS.” OF COURSE I AM NOT PLACING ALL THE BLAME ON MEN FOR THESE CIRCUMSTANCES. WOMEN ARE QUITE SCANDALOUS
OR AT LEAST CAPABLE OF BEING SO AT A 98% RATE. MEN WOULD NEVER GET TO THAT “DOG” STAGE IF WOMEN DIDN`T GO FOR THAT KIND OF THING. I`VE SEEN MANY A NICE GUY TURNED SOUR BY SCANDALOUS WOMEN WHO THOUGHT THEY MADE BETTER “FRIENDS” OR “BIG BROTHER” ONLY TO FIND THAT WITH THEIR NEW INSINCERE APPROACH THEIR EFFICIENCY RATING SKYROCKETED. IT`S A VICIOUS CYCLE THIS THING CALLED RELATIONSHIPS. PEOPLE AREN`T GOING TO STOP BEING SELFISH AND THEY AREN`T GOING TO STOP LIKING WHAT`S BAD FOR THEM. UNFORTUNATELY, THROUGH ALL THIS ANALYSIS I HAVE NO SOLUTION EXCEPT WOMEN DATING WOMEN. IT WILL FORCE US TO GET OUR ACT TOGETHER AND YOU ALL CAN THINK ABOUT WHAT IT REALLY IS THAT`S GOING TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FUNCTION.
AS AN ASIDE TO THIS ENTRY. WHEN PROOFREADING IT I REALIZED SOMETHING I WANTED TO SAY. THIS IS A HINT FOR WOMEN THAT I HOPE YOU TAKE HEED OF. 9 OUT OF TEN MEN CHEAT. WETHER YOU LIKE IT OR BELIEVE IT OR NOT THIS IS TRUE. SO CHANCES ARE YOUR MAN IS CHEATING ON YOU. BUT HERE`S THE THING. IF YOUR MAN IS INSECURE WHEN YOU HAVEN`T GIVEN HIM NECESSARY REASON TO BE (EVEN THOUGH YOU PROBABLY HAVE BECAUSE OF HOW SCANDALOUS WOMEN ARE) THEN THERE IS A 99.99% CHANCE THAT HE IS ONE OF THE 9 MEN CHEATING ON WOMEN. WE FEEL OUR MOST INSECURE WHEN WE REALIZE HOW EASY IT IS TO GET OVER ON SOMEONE, IN THIS CASE YOU THE WOMAN. IF WE SEE THAT YOU DON`T HAVE A CLUE OR YOU JUST ACCEPT WHATEVER BULLSHlT COMES OUT OF OUR MOUTH. WE WONDER OURSELVES HOW MANY THINGS WE`VE OVERLOOKED BECAUSE WE DIDN`T WANT TO BELIEVE YOU WOULD DO US WRONG. IT`S LIKE A FORMULA. THE AMOUNT OF INSECURITY WITHOUT PHYSICAL EVIDENCE IS IN DIRECT PROPORTION TO THE LIKELIHOOD THAT WE ARE CHEATING OURSELVES.
Mind you most of my commentary is based on relationships dealing with black people. Reading this now I still have no practical answers. The balance is so unfairly swung in man’s favor that women are doomed to live out this vicious cycle relying on luck as their only out. Between Jail, early Death, and same sex preference, for every “desirable” man (and by desirable I mean availability + attraction) there’s four desirable women on his level. people don’t tend to deviate from their level when picking partners but they wouldn’t find the pickings more plentiful if they went up or down a level anyway. So then if a man can get with 4 women, then what’s to stop him? well certainly not women because between cattiness and jealousy they divide and conquer themselves for the sake of pulling one of these men. Sometimes they subject themselves to sharing, and hold not the man, nor themselves, but the other woman accountable. Well there is nothing short of a million woman march and a community declaration of celibacy (kind of like the blog) that would get men in line. When Sheike and me were in her car talking about the guy she likes she was telling me all these great things about him then proceeded to tell me why they aren’t enough. Naturally, I thought that she was being too picky. Knowing the mentality of men I thought that she was asking too much and she should settle for what she had. Now after listening to her for 10 minutes I realized I was wrong about that. She should not settle. I believe in striving for perfection. And I applaud her for doing so even though I suspect most of her striving for perfection is just that she is a malcontent and can’t be comfortable without conflict. The problem with this theory is that she will continue to be lonely if she finds somebody who is “good enough” but won’t settle because he’s not perfect. Because in this era of dating for a man to be “good enough” is almost rare enough for it to be considered perfect. It’s like in grade school when the bad kid gets a gold star for doing his homework. Big whoop you did what you’re supposed to do. But we’ve become so accustomed to underachievers that deviance is the norm and mediocrity is celebrated.