DEAN…(clap)…Big Brother All Mi TEEE.

IF GOD TOLD ME TODAY THAT HE WAS DESTROYING ALL THE MUSIC IN THE WORLD BUT I COULD SAVE TEN CD`S THESE ARE THE ONES I WOULD SAVE. AND OF COURSE THERE WILL BE SOME ATISTS MISSING AND SOOME VERY GOOD CD`S BUT FOR OVERALL LISTENING PURPOSES AND TRYING TO GET AS MUCH OUT OF MY CD COLLECTION AS POSSIBLE THESE WOULD BE THE SURVIVORS IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER

1. STRICTLY 4 MY NIGG@Z-TUPAC
2. STAKES IS HIGH-DE LA SOUL
3. BLACK ON BOTH SIDES-MOS DEF
4. MIDNIGHT MAURAUDERS-TRIBE
5. ATLiens-OUTKAST
6. WHO IS JILL SCOTT-JILL SCOTT
7. MY LIFE-MARY J BLIGE
8. SADE`S GREATEST HITS-SADE
9. MUSIC BOX-MARIAH CAREY
10. TIDAL-FIONA APPLE
11. KIND OF BLUE-MILES DAVIS
12. RHYTHM OF THE SAINTS-PAUL SIMON
13. PASSIONFRUIT-MICHAEL FRANKS
14. DR BUZZARDS COMPILATION-DR BUZZARD`S ORIGINAL SAVANNAH BAND.
I KNOW THAT`S MORE THAN TEN BUT I DON`T HAVE ANY THAT I CAN SPARE.

So looking back on some of my BP blogs I remembered how much I liked some of my entries. So to continue in my series of BP re-posts I decided on this one. This doesn’t even really apply anymore either because since I’m so far removed from college life and since (technically at least) I’m grown it’s not really a big deal anymore. But here it is anyway.

WELL NOW IT`S TIME TO PISS SOME PEOPLE OFF. THE BAD THING ABOUT THIS IS THAT MOST OF THE PEOPLE I`M TALKING ABOUT ARE PROBABLY TOO SELF-RIGHTEOUS TO THINK THEY CAN GAIN PERSPECTIVE FROM ANOTHER INDIVIDUAL SO THEY PROBABLY AREN`T READING THIS ANYWAY. NOT THAT I`M LOOKING TO GET UNDER ANYONE`S SKIN OR START ARGUMENTS. I`M JUST HERE TO OFFER PERSPECTIVE. NOTHING MORE OR LESS. SO ABOUT BLACK SORORITIES. I AM FROM THE SOUTH AND DOWN HERE THE AKA`S AND DELTAS ARE THE MOST POPULAR SORORITIES FOLLOWED BY THE ZETAS. THERE ARE HOWEVER VERY FEW SIGMA GAMMA RHO`S SO RECENTLY WHEN I WAS LOOKING AT SOME OF THE RHO`S PAGES ON HERE (BP)I WAS ASKED WHAT MY INTEREST WAS? WELL THE TRUTH IS I DON`T KNOW ANY. AND I WAS CURIOUS TO FIND OUT WHY THEY MIGHT HAVE PLEDGED. I REALIZE ALL GIRLS AREN`T SHALLOW BUT MOST OF THE ONES IN SORORITIES ARE. NOW LET ME SAY BEFORE THE ENTIRE AUDIENCE GETS UPSET THAT I DON`T THINK EVERY GIRL IN A SORORITY IS SHALLOW. I KNOW LOTS OF PEOPLE I`VE HELD IN VERY HIGH REGARD WHO ARE IN THE VERY SORORITIES I AM GOING TO BASH IN A SECOND. TWO OF MY LAST THREE (now 3 of 4) GIRLFRIENDS WERE GREEK AND I DON`T JUST ATTCH THE LABEL GIRLFRIEND TO EVERY ATTRACTIVE GIRL I DATE. SO I CERTAINLY FEEL THAT THERE ARE SONE GIRLS WITH VERY REDEEMING QUALITIES IN GREEK ORGANIZATIONS, BUT I THINK THAT THE MAJORITY OF THEM ARE SHALLOW.

IF YOU`VE GONE AHEAD AND GOTTEN OFFENDED ALREADY THEN YOU SHOULD PROBABLY DO SOME SELF EXAMINATION. ANYWAY, IT SEEMS THAT WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT MOST GIRLS WHO ARE UNDECIDED ABOUT WHAT SORORITY THEY WANT TO JOIN ARE USUALLY MAKING A DECISION BETWEEN DELTA AND AKA. SINCE THEY ARE THE TWO LARGEST THAT MAKES SENSE RIGHT? WELL I NEVER TALK TO A GIRL AND HEAR HER TELL ME SHE`S CONSIDERING JOINING S.G.RHO. NEVER ONCE. IT IS MY UNDERSTANDING THAT THEY ARE POPULAR OTHER PLACES BUT DOWN HERE THEY AREN`T. SO MY KNOWLEDGE OF THEM AND THEIR PRACTICES IS VERY LIMITED. I AM PRETTY CURIOUS IN GENERAL WHAT WOULD MAKE S.G.RHO DISTINGUISH ITSELF TO THOSE THAT DO JOIN SINCE MOST GIRLS JOINING GREEK SORORITIES ARE JUST SEARCHING FOR CONFORMITY AND ASSIMILATION IN THE FIRST PLACE. HERE`S YOUR NEXT CHANCE TO SAY “OH NO HE DIDN`T” AND CALL YOUR LINE SISTER SO YALL CAN WRITE ME A NOTE TELLING ME I DON`T KNOW SHIT CAUSE I`M JUST A GDI ANYWAY. WELL I KNOW PLENTY. I KNOW THAT THE PEOPLE IN THESE ORGANIZATIONS TRY TO BRAINWASH INDIVIDUALS. IT STARTS EVEN BEFORE THEY JOIN. THE FACT THAT SOMEONE INTERESTED IN JOINING AN ORGANIZATION CAN`T OPENLY EXPRESS THAT WITHOUT FEAR OF BEING HOLOCAUSTED BY THE INDIVIDUALS ALREADY IN SAID ORGANIZATION IS ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS TO ME. I KNOW IF I WAS PART OF SOMETHING AND SOMEONE WHO PROBABLY LOOKED UP TO ME CAUSE I WAS A PART OF IT CAME TO ME AND OR OTHERS AND SAID THEY WANTED TO BE A PART, THE LAST THING I WOULD DO IS GET OFFENDED. DO YALL THINK JESUS GOT MAD WHEN PEOPLE SAID THEY WANTED TO WORSHIP GOD AS HE DID?

SO WHY THEN ARE THESE NAIVE GIRLS WHO MAKE THE “MISTAKE” OF ANNOUNCING THEIR INTENTIONS BEFORE THEY ARE DEEMED WORTHY BY THE ALREADY DISTINGUISHED MEMBERS TREATED POORLY? WHAT AN ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS THING TO DO. WHICH BRINGS ME TO MY NEXT ISSUE. THESE ARE THE SAME GIRLS WHO AT SOME POINT HAD AN INNER CONFLICT ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT THEY WERE GOING TO BE AN AKA OR A DELTA BEFORE THEY DECIDED WHICH TO PLEDGE BUT ARE NOW “_____ TO THE HEART AND SOUL.” WHAT HYPOCRISY. AND WHAT NERVE THAT THESE GIRLS THINK BECAUSE THEY HAVE SOME LETTERS ON THEIR CHEST AND COLORS ON THEIR BACK THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO MAKE JUDGEMENTS ON OTHER PEOPLE`S VALUE SO FAR AS THEIR ORGANIZATION IS CONCERNED. I AUTOMATICALY HAVE A PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE TOO SHORT SIGHTED TO SEE THEY ARE CAPABLE OF THINGS THAT THEY AREN`T PROUD OF AND WHO CAN`T REALIZE THEIR OWN SHORTCOMINGS. BUT WHY WOULD YOU EVER HAVE NERVE TO THINK YOU HAVE MORE VALUE THAN ANOTHER PERSON JUST BECAUSE YOU PLEDGED FIRST. WHAT A SILLY CODE OF ETHICS.

IT PROBABLY SEEMS LIKE I HAVEN`T MENTIONED FRATERNITIES YET. WELL THAT`S NO OVERSIGHT. ALTHOUGH SOME PEOPLE IN FRATERNITIES ARE LIKE THIS I THINK THERE ARE FAR LESS GUYS THIS FICKLE AND CONTRARY. ANY GUY THAT WANTS TO BAD ENOUGH CAN BE AN ALPHA. NO MATTER HOW UNATTRACTIVE, SMALL, FAT, ETC. BUT LET A FAT GIRL COME TO AN AKA INFORMATIONAL AND EAT TOO MUCH CHICKEN. NO WAY SHE GETS ONLINE. OR IF TOOMANY RUMORS ABOUT HER SEXUAL ESCAPADES ARE OUT, THE DIVAS WILL SOONER ERR ON THE SIDE OF CAUTION THEN TO LET A “SLUT” IN THEIR PRESTIGOUS ORGANIZATION.

A LOT OF THIS RANT SOUNDS BITTER I’M SURE, BUT I CONSIDER IT MY RIGHT AND MY DUTY TO BE EMBITTERED ON BEHALF OF ALL THOSE WHO WOULD BE PERSECUTED FOR IT. THERE’S A GIRL OUT THERE WHO FEELS THE SAME WAY I DO BUT WHOSE VOICE WON’T BE HEARD BECAUSE THEY’LL DISMISS HER.

THEN THERE’S THIS GLORIOUS CONCEPT OF SISTERHOOD. WHEN IN TRUTH AT THE HBCU’S WHERE THEY CROSS DOZENS AT A TIME MOST OF THE GIRLS DON’T KNOW OR LIKE EACH OTHER. I COULD GO ON BUT I WON’T.

This post is funny now. Recently a picture of me was acquired with me wearing some DST parephenalia. The picture was taken and posted by my nappy-headed ex girlfriend who was a Delta. It was really meant as an inside joke for me and her when we took the picture that is until the bitterness set in for her. But anyway some of my friends (sho are Delta’s) found the picture. Ironically none of them were upset by it. And I guess they were amused for the most part. Goes to show what a little maturity can do for people as far as their priorities. Even though these girls are friends of mine I’m sure if we were still in College together I wouldn’t hear the end of it. I wanted to post this pic here but unfortunately I too have matured and am sensitive to people and their religions…I mean organizations. But anyone who wants to know where I’ll tell you how to find it.

Advertisements

22 responses to “DEAN…(clap)…Big Brother All Mi TEEE.

  1. I almost got sucked into the whole pledging thing. My best friend, my college roomate, and all the girls I socialized with pledged AKA. Of course they tried to get in my head to get me to get on their little “Alpha” train. I had actually gotten my transcript together and all the other b.s. they required when I did some soul searching. Was this something I REALLY wanted to do? Or was I just doing this to be a part of a crowd the I really was already a part of? I decided against it. No way was I going to allow my parents waste good money (hell I couldn’t pay for it . . .no job) on something I was in no way passionate about. And besides I don’t see the point of degrading someone in order to later accept them as your equal. That’s BULL! I have not problem working in order to attain something . . .but being demeaned. . . oh but HELL NAW! Just wasn’t my schtick. . . and never will be.

  2. First off, thanks for posting a comment! It’s nice to see others are reading my vents! (esp someone from NO, a city that I love!) Well years ago when I was a freshman, I actually rushed for a sorority and ended up getting a bid which I took. It was insane because I NEVER saw myself as a sorority girl and apparently I still didn’t. After about two weeks of pledging, I DEPLEDGED because I couldn’t stand the stupid crap that I was being put through. You’re right about your comments. It is a lot of conformity and assimilation to what the sorority’s standards are. I couldn’t do it. Most girls dont realize that till later. I’ve know a lot of people who have depledged and deactivated. Sometimes it takes the experience to know what to do.

  3. It’s funny that u posted this, b/c Kristy JUST (as in, last week) told me about THAT Delta pic and said it was circulating around their list serv or something like that. I fell out laughing when she told me and SHE, being the “liberal” Delta that she is, was trying to figure out what the big deal was too. Is this blog the start of your trying to ruffle some “colors?” Well maybe not specifically, but are we about to be bold with the viewpoints? It used to annoy me when peeps would try to “front” about their reasons for pledging…all I’m saying is, just be real.

  4. I couldn’t agree more with what you said, I myself could not conform and pledge, especially after that so-called bestfriend I wrote about in my blog crossed over to AKA. I saw who she was and how she changed once she crossed, and I despise the person she’s become. I feel the same way about sororities…

  5. @ Shana Don’t get me wrong Shana I am in no way saying there’s anything with joining an organization that people who’s opinion you value are a part of it. If all your friends are a part of an organization then by all means if you have that connection with them then be as close to them as possible. My problem is with people who do it out of insecurity and then are empowered by it so much that they ego trip about it. It’s like they need that to validify them but then once they get it they’re invincible and have no faults. @ Jane I’m sure the experience is good for some but it isn’t for everyone and a lot of them don’t even understand that. I liked your blog too. I felt like you were sitting on the other end of the phone pulling your hair out.@ Suzette You know the funny thing is I don’t even own the best of Sade. I didn’t see a reason to since I own all her other cd’s but I’d have a hard time picking between them and they did a pretty good job with that one. @ Diggs I’m sure I’ll keep the controversial issues to a min. I don’t really have that many strong opinions about things that would offend people who might be reading me. But I hope I can come up with some. It’s more fun that way. Dorcas was actually the person who told me that she saw the pic. I think she got the email from Amaya.@ Bitter Wow! a comment. Man you’re really making your presence known out here huh? Now I know which friend you were talking about disassociating yourself withBTW all check out my friend Des. Neodes on my blogroll. SHe’s new and she needs some encouragement.

  6. I had a friend in college who wanted to pledge Delta so bad…she read up on the history, went to every pledge meeting (or whatever they are called), tried to socialize with them regularly…But when it was time to be online, she got so discourage by the treatment she was receiving she said fuck this shit and left. She felt that she was being singled out because of her weight. None of her other line “sisters” were overweight. They were calling her all kind of derogatory names and making her do crazy exercises-just trying to humiliate her.. I feel that a lot of those sororities (undergrad at least) are like cults in that they have to break you down mentally then they will accept you. I suppose that your mind is now ready for all of the conformity that’s involved.

  7. you are a man after my own heart…not only do you have tribe (btw i listened to midnight marauders today and its still a banger!!), but you also have mary j. blige…MY LIFE!!!*my eyelids flutter in a swooning fashion*

  8. LOL @ this old BP post. Shit, LOL @ BP period. Anyways…I became a Zeta not too long ago, but back in undergrad I felt the same way. Plus I went to Loyola Marymount out here in Los Angeles(whitey school, no offense) so our folks weren’t deep there. At all. But the separatism and persecution was present. I couldn’t understand why the two main sororities (who weren’t even ON campus… these broads had to pledge at other campuses because LMU hadn’t accepted their organizations) would keep the separation going when you could basically count us all on one hand in any given building. But they felt it was their right. A lot of non-conformist sistas were judged by our disdain and lack of interest in their “sisterhood”, which was questionable in the first place.Not all members are like that, true enough. But I definitely felt what you did back in the days of undergrad. Damn I’m glad I’m grown.

  9. I agreed with a lot of the points you made here. I get sick of hearing about Greek shit this and Greek shit that. Simply because if it’s not one issue it’s another. If that’s the life for you, I think you should go with the organization that best fits the person you want to be. But I cannot stand when greeks look crazy at non-greeks or talk about people for expressing interest. That is some elist bullshit and I’mm liable to cut a muthafucka after reading this. Just thought you should know.Just kidding about the shankin, but I did feel this post.

  10. ugh@that cd…no stevie wonder? donny hathaway? luther? marvin gaye? earth wind and fire? michael jackson!?!? LOL@greek stuff…i’m not gonna lie, i wanted to pledge…but i thought pledging was illegal? *thinking* but anyways, i changed my mind after chatting int he college chat on BP for 93204329 years…the way those folks would come in there and act, it seemed like they were brain washed, only a majority of them though, not all of them..i can count the one’s who were cool on my two hands, but the rest, blah…i mean even int he chatroom they would not talk to folks who werent in greek orgs and call them GDI’s, i really hate that acronym, it sounds like a STD…but yea, as for on my campus, i dont know, alot of them seem TOO MUCH into their org…and use they do change, and act different, not ALL but alot, but then again alot of folks from church i know that are in those orgs, they dont act different, but the rest do…i guess thats because GOD is first in their life, not their org…i also didnt have a good reason to pledge, just having the letter and strolling at parties (which i dont party anyways), and doing step shows isnt a good enough reason, and yes i know there’s more to a sorority than that, but those were soem things that held my interest and wasnt good enough, so i thought against it. And Ef paying $1,000!

  11. What the heezy is “GDI”? lol!I pursued one of the sororities while I was in undergrad for a little while, but for many of the reasons you listed, I decided against it. And I don’t regret it. More recently, though, I’ve considered doing grad chapter….but it’s a mere thought right now. *shrug*

  12. I’m clueless to what “GDI” is also? Hopefully you can elaborate. *smile*Well you have some very good view points Jedi. And truthfully speaking, I myself was gonna pledge to…well I was at least contemplating it. And a lot of my friends/peers/professors were trying to get me to pledge with their selected sororities as well. I was actually very very close to going through with it to. Well. To be honest, I don’t see a problem with the whole concept of “sisterhood” or “brotherhood” and/or wanting to join a certain group that you feel conformable with (whether it be social, athletic, religious, whatever)…but if it entails ridicule and mistreatment, etc, then that’s when I have a bit of a problem with it. No matter how much I try to dissect it, research it, or bombard those who “do” belong to those fraternities and sororities with a billion-and-one questions…I still can’t seem to understand the reasoning(s) behind the use of ridicule as being apart of the initiation processes, esp considering that there have been a couple of deaths b/c of it in the past (example: remember that girl who was in the middle of pledging AKA and during one of their intiation procedures, she drowned b/c she told them she couldn’t swim but they made her get in the water anyway…? And similar stories like that?) Mmmmm? Crazy. ‘Cause I think black people go through to much ridicule in the world as it is for stuff like that to be happening. Doesn’t really make much since to me? However, if you look at it in a diff perpsective, everyone “is” initialed to his/her own opinion(s)…so if someone I know wants to pledge/join a group to their liking, I won’t discourage them from doing so…if it’s something that they want to do. Awww well, to each his own I guess…but I still don’t think I’ll ever understand the reasonings behind the ridicule and mistreatment thing though…and don’t think I ever will. Mmm? something to think about?

  13. from what folks on BP told me is that GDI means “Got Damn Individual”, but who knows, they were probably lying…just like some Kappa told me that NUPE meant “Never Ugly Pretty Everyday” which i figure that’s a lie cuz i sure have seen some ugly ones…

  14. You’ve made some interesting comments fine sir. I’m not even going to comment though. I was one of those “Oh no he didn’t” folks. hahahahaha Like your ex-girlfriend, I’m a Delta. Boy…if I saw you in that shirt….Muhahahahaha! I would…..do absolutely nothing. hahahaha I’d probably think you were a gay dude trying to be a Delta. I’d probably want to rip the shirt off of you but be scared you’d come at me doing the gay windmill defense tactic. Scratching me all up n’ shit. I can’t be having that. LOL I rememember this gay dude that wanted to pledge Delta. LOL Shoot….these days, I wouldn’t be surprised. LOL Signed…your favorite detective (smile)

  15. sorry i’m late G. you know i wub you *muah*can I get an AMEN?! HALALLUJAH! you said it ALL. i truly thought i was the only one who felt this way about sororities/fraternities. you better watch your back though because people get all crazy when you talk about their organizations like that. i just don’t get it. it’s brainwashing at its worst.

  16. @Rock that’s precisely what I mean. They probably were extra hard on her because they wanted her to drop. @Shan Is that right? *observing eye contact and throwing back googly eyes of my own*@Mini Dang! this is the second reply I’ve seen you make today. When the imperial majesty is in like she does a lot of sharing. Way to go UB.@Soul (Mrs. Slim) I have been in college a while and I got to observe a lot of people before and after they pledged and you’re right once they pledged all of a sudden everything was centered around the organization. And they were now just worker bees in this big greek hive.@Toya I remember the first time I saw a party step. It was these Alphas at Tulane and it was the livest thing I had ever seen. Then three college parties later, many funny looks for cutting through their little stroll, and a lot of contempt later strolling became my least favorite thing about greeks. It’s like they all just walk around in a big circle and everybody is supposed to stop what they’re doing and watch this little line dance. God forbid they be in the path of the train. Fuck that. I didn’t move for nobody. I wish I was still that hostile.@ Chevonne and Dayrell GDI is in fact Got Damn Individual. And greeks throw this at non-greeks the way white people use nigger. as if I’m supposed to be offended. like Big Rube said on ATLiens “Now ask yourself, Are you a GDI? I know I am. As a matter of fact fuck being anything else.” You know what I used to think that I’m not sure about. I assumed that the hazing process had something to do with the way the slaves were treated. I mean I’m not too familiar with how white fraternities pledge but I don’t think there is as much “torture” I think that’s exclusive to black frats and sororities. If so it would seem that it would be some way connected with treatment of slaves but I’ve never heard anyone say anything to confirm or deny this so who knows.@Brown Shuga see I knew you were coming by that’s why I didn’t post it. I don’t want to insult anyone. In fact I wish that they would stop circulating that email so people qould stop going to look at that picture cause I’m sure everyone has the wrong idea. But I do want the people I’m referring to to feel a little tingle under their skin cause they know I found they ass out.@Mia You know you just get here whenever you can. The door is always open. We’ll show them.We’ll start our blogging fraternity and we’ll make sure that everybody in our org isn’t one of the elitist greeks or else.

  17. weeeeeeeeeeeell….When i pledged SGRHO, i had my reasons…the truth is…everyone should have their OWN reasons for why they pledge the organization they pledge. I find fault in those people who choose organizations based on “liking the color”, or “i want to be with my best friend” or “i wanna get into the parties for free”….I also find fault in those that DONT pledge (paper people)…..*no need to elaborate, if you dont get it..then you just dont*.Greek life has a lot of benefits, if you’re an active member and you are actually financial and do the work, and not just the parties.I dont find anything wrong with your post…it’s what you believe, and what you’re thinking…everyone has their opinions, questions, comments….But on the whole…wearing Delta ‘nelia thing…yeah….the Deltas out here woulda caught you with a left…lol…and that pretty much goes for any organization that catches you wearing their letters and you’re not a member.nice blog by the way…i’ll be back often.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s